During the summer, a usually have a run of people coming to see me for anxiety around flying as they want less stress getting to their holiday destination or they wish to get to further away places. Then there are some that take it a step or two beyond that.

Absolutistic thinking is effectively laying down laws to a universe that is not going to hear them. This leads to excessive pressure, and inevitably disappointment and frustration.

Your mind needs to go to the exam in order to plan, but it does tend to fixate on all the things that might go wrong. If the mind simply imagines it going smoothly it is a lot less likely to keep coming back to those thoughts and when it does the experience will not be stressful.

I would argue that every phobia is simply a fear of feeling afraid. A phobic reaction has nothing to do with the trigger itself. It is a fear of the feeling that you get when that trigger is there.

Imagined words and images are not a threat to you regardless of that they are saying. If they feel like a threat then you are mistaking those thoughts for reality – you are experiencing an imagined idea as more real than the reality of the current moment. This is a detrimental form of self-hypnosis.

For the vast majority of my vaping clients, the nicotine addiction is not the problem. The problem is the lies, excuses and justifications that they have told themselves over the years to justify feeding the habit.

Four Times Winner Hypnotherapist Of The Year in South East England.

I am often asked by people who have survived trauma if I can hypnotise them to forget traumatic memories. It's a good question, but not good therapy.

So, how can hypnosis help for sleep all night? The trick of the self-hypnosis sleep audio is that it focuses the mind in the moment on the process of falling asleep in an abstract way, so the mind can let go of the things that are keeping it otherwise occupied…

After three sessions of slow progress Christie really turned things around on the fourth by stepping into my territory. She mentioned the body holding on to trauma, and I scoffed at the suggestion – she knew what I did for a living – I'm not harbouring trauma! I know better than that. Notice a little ego creeping in there?

The body stores pain and trauma. Be Activated Therapy is a process of uncovering the cheat patterns in the body and the way it moves and breathes, in order to bring our bodies out of the fight/flight/freeze of a stress response.

Although sadness feels like a negative emotion, it has a positive intent. When you lose someone or something meaningful you require the support of others. Sadness is a message from you to you to get that support.

There are many phobias of completely harmless things. If someone has always experienced a fear reaction around buttons for example, buttons are dangerous. This is their reality.

Jealousy can feel like a very negative emotion, but it means well. What if jealousy is just a message from you to you about something that someone else has that you want.

If something happens to make you feel anger and you forget it is just a message from you to you that something's not right, then you become the message. Your mind narrows its focus on that one thing that was not right to the exclusion of everything else.

What if anxiety is about happiness and well-being though? What if anxiety was just a message from you to you saying that something is threatening your happiness and well-being?

At a time more than any other in our lives it is easy to blame external events for how we feel inside.

I have a number of different hypnotic ways to disarm traumatic memories, and one that I have been using for a few months now involves Donald Duck.